tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post5605546209597916664..comments2023-06-09T21:55:21.770+10:00Comments on <a href="https://effingtheineffable.blogspot.com.au/">effing the ineffable</a>: crimson tidefishboyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05861785707797227077noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-1299631415241407492010-07-07T11:52:08.148+10:002010-07-07T11:52:08.148+10:00Cheers Sal, it's turning out to be quite fun -...Cheers Sal, it's turning out to be quite fun - if somewhat exhausting.fishboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05861785707797227077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-63189233592153109622010-07-07T07:06:27.973+10:002010-07-07T07:06:27.973+10:00best o luck matebest o luck mateSalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04241907951700887861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-62660895680359681102010-07-02T14:42:20.832+10:002010-07-02T14:42:20.832+10:00Thanks Sas! Love your rules - just wish I'd re...Thanks Sas! Love your rules - just wish I'd read them before Wednesday night's date. Not that there was any shagging, but we did get boozed and there was a bit of snogging before I managed to disengage long enough to send her off in a taxi..<br /><br />The rule I may have most problems with is number three. I have a tendency to throw myself in the deep end far too quickly. I'm learning restraint tho - and resilience.<br /><br />I think I'm being pretty naturalistic about this - I'm not pretending to be anything other than me. If anything I'm possibly a little too honest - but frankly I can't be bothered expending the energy constructing a new persona. It's hard enough to remember real events some days let alone invented ones.<br /><br />It is fun though (never thought I'd say that!) - possibly because I've stepped away from the idea that I'm doing it to find a partner and am just meeting new and interesting people. The fact that they happen to be attractive women is simply a bonus :)fishboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05861785707797227077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-5351675159739162332010-06-30T19:01:35.163+10:002010-06-30T19:01:35.163+10:00I had such fun internet dating!
What worked for ...I had such fun internet dating! <br /><br />What worked for me was to basically co-opt the same approach I would have in 'real-life'. So if a bloke smiles at me in a bar and I know instantly that they are not for me, I politely ignore them. Same goes for the smiles you get from the dull, non-interesting, nothing in common, earnest types.<br /><br />I had done quite a lot of thinking (A FUCKING LOT) about previous relationships and what had worked, had not worked. So I already had a picture in my head of the type of person I was looking for - I would refer back to this list all the time.<br /><br />I learnt discretion - in the past if a bloke I fancied had liked me then I would twist myself into whatever I thought he was looking for to make it work. With internet dating I realised I could just be myself and it didn't really matter. <br /><br />And i had three rules: no shagging until date #3 (at least), no drinking on dates (cos after 2 glasses of wine I am anybody's) and no falling in love (I tend to go from indifferent to obsessed in about 9 days).<br /><br />Also dating a few guys at a time just to get to know some different people worked for me. I wasn't sleeping with anyone - just finding out who they were.<br /><br />And if someone did something I didn't like: from lying about where they were, to being really unfunny - i binned them early.<br /><br />It was a fun, difficult, scary, weird, natural process! When I met Ash, it was right, absolutely from the start.<br /><br />Trust your instincts :)<br /><br />Best of luck!sashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14830020017743741010noreply@blogger.com