tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post7706037829076722665..comments2023-06-09T21:55:21.770+10:00Comments on <a href="https://effingtheineffable.blogspot.com.au/">effing the ineffable</a>: connectionsfishboyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05861785707797227077noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-79945635117869907722010-02-23T12:41:43.017+11:002010-02-23T12:41:43.017+11:00y: I feel the loss of pets more strongly than I do...y: I feel the loss of pets more strongly than I do the loss of friends in some ways..<br /><br />eroica: You don't talk shit babe - at least not with me. But then we've never really had problems with conversation!<br /><br />Anonymous: I'm very aware of the reasons why the friendship lapsed and why the ex has seen them more than I - and I haven't listed them all here. The fact that women are so often the 'social secretaries' in relationships also isn't news to me. I knew when I spit from my ex that I was going to have to make more of an effort to run my own social life and have been doing just that. <br /><br />Thanks for the book suggestion though - I might check that out.<br /><br />helena: I think the small-talk thing is largely a matter of practice, and it's not really something I need to worry about with my established friends - more of a problem with new acquaintances or friends of friends.<br /><br />Mostly I'm not concerned about chitchat or increasing the amount of contact with people who know me - like you say, if they're friends they accept you as you are and the friendship persists even when you don't see each other often.fishboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05861785707797227077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-70471343209291985822010-02-23T08:45:53.973+11:002010-02-23T08:45:53.973+11:00Anonymous has a good point there. Women do tend to...Anonymous has a good point there. Women do tend to do the social arrangement thing much more easily than men. Apart from me that is...my brother Herebe and I must have had our genes swapped at some point because he's brilliant at making (and keeping/keeping in touch with) people/friends he knows and I'm completely crap at it (and small talk)<br /><br />I wouldn't worry about it though. Ive found that those people who make the effort to keep in touch with you will be the ones you'd want to keep in touch with anyway (and who don't care about the lack of small talk).helenahttp://www.hendrixcat.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-54638756896536902262010-02-23T02:59:43.416+11:002010-02-23T02:59:43.416+11:00You made fun of title "Small Talk for Dummies...You made fun of title "Small Talk for Dummies" but seriously, you might benefit from the book "The Fine Art of Small Talk."<br /><br />You know why your ex has seen so much of this couple and you haven't? Because women make the social arrangements. Really. So get on the stick and keep your friendships.<br /><br />You Don't Know MeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-8227943825223237242010-02-22T17:41:00.805+11:002010-02-22T17:41:00.805+11:00hey love.
there is something so beautiful about so...hey love.<br />there is something so beautiful about someone who just can't DO smalltalk. i talk far too much shit, and skim over too much, i love that you don't suffer from that affliction! the flip side eh.<br />love love loveeroicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05489295096336063886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6204590.post-45560020579375219402010-02-22T06:31:48.065+11:002010-02-22T06:31:48.065+11:00I feel oh so sympathetic about the 'I can'...I feel oh so sympathetic about the 'I can't do chichat, must go into the deep stuff right away' feeling. And about the lack of cat company. That's terrible.mchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13571492936343118808noreply@blogger.com